Some people judge others by what they can do for them. Instead of judging themselves by what they do for others.
If you examine yourself and find that you are not doing anything for others, Then you should consider changing your life style, perhaps dramatically.
If on the other hand you are doing the best you can just to avoid being a burden to others, then by all means request a helping hand when needed.
As a guiding measure, can you load all your possessions on a camel and still have it pass through the eye of the needle? You can^t bring belongings with you into God^s kingdom and they may be a hindrance to you and others in this life.
If your possessions are beyond your capacity to manage them yourself then you have no rights to own them. You are living beyond your means. You are a hindrance to society. It is time for a change.
Don^t ask anything of anyone that you wouldn^t do for them unless you are prepared to compensate them for their special skills and abilities. It may well be that the person disapproves of your life style and that it is against his will to participate in your sins of excess and of being an unnecessary burden. Wait for Christ^s crowning, don^t make a queen or king of yourself prematurely.
If you need to ask a favor, have respect for those who may decline. They may have a genuine reason for declining. I for example do not do fancy curtains for myself or anyone else. There are too many things involved, tools, parts, know how, skills, time, required assistance, doing for others what I do not do for myself, as well as the above mentioned deterrents, etc.
Winners are those who are able to get others to do everything for them. Losers are also those who need everything done for them. Then there are survivors, those who avoid tragedy or suicide. Life is not about winners and losers. Life is about righteousness and survival.
2007 Jacques Gauvin